The 1950s were a simpler and more innocent time when it came to dating. It would likely be challenging for someone who is familiar with how the dating scene looks like today to need to comply with dating rules that prevailed seventy years ago. Nevertheless, it is interesting how so many behaviors changed but perhaps some are not really that much different from today’s dating?
What is the first thing that should be considered according to this instructional video?
First of all, you need to choose the right person.
One way to do it is to consider appearance. People could say that looks don’t matter, or at least shouldn’t. But we all know this is not entirely true, at least not at the beginning of a relationship. However, we all recognize that being attractive is far from being enough. If someone’s personality and the way they act are not compatible with yours or you find them mean, annoying or unfriendly, dating them will not work out for you in the long run. The compatibility issues are an important factor too. You want to go out with someone that you can have fun with, whatever it is you find fun and entertaining.
Another question that the video raises is, how do you ask someone for a date?
As we may be aware ourselves, suggesting a date or meeting could be a stressful experience. We may be afraid of rejection or that what we say will come across as awkward, dull or will not interest the other person. Unfortunately, all these options may well happen to us. But, as the video shows, if you want it, you will need to be brave. Asking someone out while being stressed and visibly intimidated might put them off. Being overly confident and borderline arrogant could result in a similar reaction. So, what else is there to do?
As we learn, planning something interesting and being honest and natural has a much higher chance of succeeding.
What appears to be the goal of going on a date with someone? As we hear, there is no need to spend a lot of money to do something fancy or expensive. What seems to be the underlining purpose of every hangout like that is to simply have a good time! This should alleviate some of your stress then, right?
Dating in the 1950s and before meant preparation. The video shows a date as an event that requires physical and mental preparation. You should prepare your most elegant clothes, be ready on time and, if you are a guy, be a gentleman. What makes every date more special are flowers, as they signify that the date is going to be special occasion for you two.
How should you spend the date?
According to the video, a good practice in terms of dating in the 1950s was to go to a social gathering. Perhaps a carnival would be a good idea, a place where you can, well, have fun, spend time together and do activities. To be honest, though carnivals are not as popular anymore in most places, this is an accurate suggestion. Sometimes going on a date where you can be alone and more intimate will work better but events give you an additional purpose and limit awkwardness and stress.
How do you say goodnight? Too much and too little are not the best solutions. Trying to get intimate too quickly when it’s uncalled for will nearly grant you no dates with that person in the future. But being dismissive and leaving will indicate that you are the one who doesn’t want another date. You should let the other person know that you had a good time and end the evening properly. Naturally, if you don’t want to meet them again, there is no need to act like you do. Either way, this should still be made clear and communicated. If you are looking forward to seeing them again, discuss some possible plans for next time. Plan when you will speak to them next or what you will do together when you meet in the future.
See the instructional video from Old TV Time on dating in the 1950s!
Is Dating In The 1950s That Much Different From Dating Today?
Were the contents of the video relatable? If so, there is a chance that dating is overall a rather universal thing. Some things develop, some become forgotten, most of them change in nature. However, the feelings and impressions are all similar, dating rules don’t change that drastically.
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